Or...How I Survived My Alone Time.
This week ushered in my first full time schedule back to work since December 18th. With more than 2 weeks off, in which I had no plans of any sort¸ I sit here a changed woman. And probably not for the better. You have been warned.
“Time, time, time. See what’s become of me.” Those are the lyrics I’m reminded of. Simon and Garfunkel’s “Hazy Shade of Winter”. OK, I’m being a tad dramatic. We’ll make it the Bangles version of the song
instead. To lessen the intensity.
It’s no great epiphany to realize
that when I’m at work, I want to be home.
I’m certainly not unique in this regard.
What is eye-opening, however, is that when I’m home, I get bored and
turn into The Creature From The Black Lagoon.
Sitting at work I have these images of all of the things I’m going to do
while I’m on vacation: Paint the
bedroom, wander around NYC by myself, have wonderfully girly luncheon dates
that turn into dinner parties, change my hairstyle, go to the movies, etc, etc,
etc.
You know what I did during the 15
days I was off? Slept, fed the cat,
slept, fed the cat, read, slept, fed the cat, read.
The biggest accomplishment I can
claim is that I finished 3 books and wrote a few poems. When I say I did nothing, I mean I DID
NOTHING. I couldn’t even be motivated to…well,
never mind. We’ll just leave that one
hanging.
My point being is that given 15 days off in which I could have accomplished any number of things, my immediate instinct was to do nothing. Which inevitably lead to feeling down and disenchanted with my station in life. Which then lead to a lovely period of revisiting every painful moment I ever went through. When, you know, I actually did stuff.
My point being is that given 15 days off in which I could have accomplished any number of things, my immediate instinct was to do nothing. Which inevitably lead to feeling down and disenchanted with my station in life. Which then lead to a lovely period of revisiting every painful moment I ever went through. When, you know, I actually did stuff.
Far from being healthy, it gets
downright scary. Just how precarious is our
(my) state of mind? This thought ran
through my foggy head as I fumbled through my days. “How easy it seems to turn from a functioning
member of society, into a recluse. Into
a hermit. Into that crazy lady in the
corner condo no one ever sees.” I was shocked at how easily I slipped in to a
lifestyle that was damaging to me. Is this
who I really am (I thought)? Is this the
person I would be if I didn’t have a job to go to (I questioned)? Most importantly: Who would I be if I had made different
decisions, or tried harder? Is my
regular life someone else’s idea of a damaging lifestyle and slippery slope?
My brain’s incessant questioning
and berating was taking a toll. The
vicious circle did not take long to begin:
Sleep in late and feel guilty, chastise yourself for being a worthless
sack of dung, feel bad about being a worthless sack of dung, remember all of
the times you felt like a worthless sack of dung, go to bed and sleep late to
avoid feeling like a worthless sack of dung.
Repeat.
Awake one random early morning at
5am, I started to evaluate my life and bump it up against how the world
operates, as a whole. How the microcosm
of “just me”, related to the world at large.
To break it down further, I related the world of “me” to the world of “X
City”.
In the world of “X City”, life
has a pace. Like a living organism, it feeds,
it operates, it communicates, it supports. Should you throw a large wrench in to the
works, “X City” fundamentally loses its shit.
Seriously, the Department of Waste Management and the Sewage Treatment
Plant are in trouble.
“X City” is always operating one
second away from disaster. Look at what
happens when a major city loses power.
The city goes crazy. Our whole
life revolves around electricity. Pretty
much every external thing we do requires this power. When a city loses the ability to “see”, they
lose their ability to function. When a
city loses what they are so reliant on having - what they don’t know what to
do without - the city begins to lose its connectivity to humanity. Things that were unthinkable before start to
become doable. How quickly “X City”
turns from a fully operational and productive entity, to a place of divisiveness
and despair, is amazing.
Sitting there at 5am in the
morning, these not-so-deep thoughts made me realize just how close we all are
from destruction. Here I was sitting
home during my time off of work and dipping my toe in to a pool of despondency,
meanwhile the whole world was just as close as I was to soaking their
collective feet as well.
As a human race, we just don’t
seem built to handle change very well.
While we will adapt, eventually, our initial reaction is to revert back
to instincts that are more…primal.
Survival of the self, hiding, providing shelter, seeking food, avoiding
danger. In my own way, that’s exactly
what I did when my world was shaken up by (GASP!) a vacation that lasted too
long.
In the end, I think I’ve made
some of my own discoveries. Take them as
you will:
Happy New Year All! I hope 2014 brings you nothing but the best of everything. For me? Well, I’m counting down until my next vacation
- The monotony of daily life is underrated. Having something consistent is a welcome blanket in a world full of things we have no control over
- We, as a people, are not nearly as advanced as we like to think we are
- We like to complain. It makes us feel like we have options we wouldn't take anyway. And that's OK
- Too much time off with nothing planned is an exceptionally bad idea
- You are who you are. Eventually, you're going to have to come to terms with who that actually is
Happy New Year All! I hope 2014 brings you nothing but the best of everything. For me? Well, I’m counting down until my next vacation
With Love
Lady Butterfly
xoxoxo
Interesting insights.
ReplyDelete'We, as people, are not nearly as advanced as we like to think we are' And yet one of the things you accomplish was writing poems. Creating art is high on the evolutionary scale. : )
Thanks for reading, Leanne! We are certainly evolved. It's amazing what people have been able to achieve and build, within the last 10 years alone. Unfortunately, it seems that we can quickly revert back to our more basic instincts when things go wrong or when we are forced to deal with life... in a way we're not quite used to.
DeleteI enjoyed reading these somewhat self-deprecating musings on life. Finished 3 books and wrote a few poems - wow! That is an accomplishment! The most uncomforting thing I ever heard, was when in reply to my comment 'well, when you hit the bottom, there's only one way up' I was given the reply 'Yeah, but how do you know it's the bottom you've hit?' Keep writing!
ReplyDeleteThanks Teagan! That is certainly a jarring answer, partly due to it's uncomfortable truth! Eke! I have learned that I just can't be alone, or without concrete plans, for that amount of time. It's damaging to my brain, which in turn, is damaging to anyone who knows me. It does make for blogger fodder though! Thanks as always for you support :)
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